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“How is the heat treating your borga body?” My friend, Yvonne in Tema, asks.
“The heat has been kind to me.” I respond. “I can’t complain.”
How can I complain especially since I just had Kenkey for breakfast instead of Oatmeal and a loaded veggie Omelette from Ihop.
The Borga is indeed loose. You all know I could not resist using this title for my first blog in Ghana. If you read my blog titled “I am a Ghanaian Borga,” you will get it :).
It’s my third day in Accra and my response to everyone who asks how my trip is going is always the same. “I am having a blast in Accra.” This response is usually followed by a bunch of happy emojis.
“That is because you are in Ghana for a visit.” My friend Ruwaida in New York reminds me.
Come on, Ruwaida, don’t spoil the fun for me. I am just going to pretend I live here for the next 14 days.
In my last piece about this subject, I declared that borgas are only good for three things; sex, cash, and gifts. I can’t escape the borga stigma. So guess what? I am going to fully embrace the title. What the heck? What choice do I have? Ice follows me every where I go. Whispers of “borga” “borga” follows me when I am in town. The whispers get louder when I have a woman with me.
I am not here for borga stuff though. I am here for my twin brother’s wedding. I have best man duties to perform. I know what you are thinking. The wedding will be over in a day, then what? Yes, then what?
Six words come to mind-I will chill like a pirate!
My friend Kwame Peprah was right. Ghana is a bachelor’s paradise. After trying unsuccessfully to settle down in the States for 5 years, Kwame gave up and started visiting Ghana to look for a wife. He was unsuccessful on his first visit. His second visit produced his wife, Esi. Kwame and Esi have been married for 4 years now and have two adorable kids. Kwame in a way is a success story. He knew what he wanted and was smart enough not to settle. “Whatever it takes.” He used to say.
Kwame, I get it. Dating is a numbers game and Ghana is winning. If you do not want to settle for the limited options you have abroad, you turn your radar to Ghana. Why not? Lovely Ghanaian ladies as far as the eye can see. I am literally going crazy here. My neck is on a permanent swivel. Every shop I enter is a dream come true for this bachelor. I cannot walk into Walmart and get this experience. That nagging question of where I can meet Ghanaian singles has dissipated. What problem have I been babbling about? That problem is non-existent in Accra. I see beautiful Ghanaian women everywhere. Ghanaian women are the most beautiful and adorable creatures in the world if you ask me. They are the salt of the earth.
This is a good time to introduce the cynical Kwadjo Panyin. The cynical Kwadjo Panyin is thinking Accra can be a fool’s paradise.
The cynical Kwadjo Panyin knows you have steep challenges if you come looking for someone to settle with in Ghana. Yes, you have the numbers. Yes, you have all the types, shapes, personalities, religions etc., etc. You, however, just entered the murky world of international long distance relationships. A world void of physical intimacy. A world void of the sight of your loved one. A world where trust hangs on a thread. A world where trust sits on a thin sheet of ice. A world filled with video chats, WhatsApp calls, and phone cards. A world where communication can be derailed by network issues, power issues, and data issues. A world saturated with the real possibility that the US immigration Services can place the Kabash on securing a fiancée visa. How many video conference calls can you have before it gets old? How many WhatsApp conversations can you have before you run out of things to say? How many temptations will you both face while apart? The cynical Kwadjo Panyin has said enough. The cynical Kwadjo Panyin is going to take a break now.
So the borga is loose. He is loose for a few more weeks. What does he have up his sleeve? What’s he cooking up? Hmmm. One thing is for sure, this borga is looking forward to something. Something major, something exciting, something he has not experienced in a long time.
This borga is looking forward to having a blast at the Chale Wote festival in Accra James Town on August 20th.
Author: Kwadjo Panyin
Kwadjo Panyin is a Ghanaian born relationship and lifestyle blogger located in Los Angeles, California. He holds three degrees; a Bachelors degree from Rutgers University in New Jersey, an MBA from Franklin University in Ohio and a Masters of Science degree from Northern Kentucky University in Kentucky. Kwadjo is a business professional who blogs for fun. His articles are about the challenges of dating and relationship anomalies. Writing, blogging, world travel, and photography are his favorite hobbies.