Let Her Go

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Hello there! Thanks for clicking on this post. You got curious, didn’t you? 🙂

You are here to find out why he let her go. I do want to talk about letting her go but in a different way. I actually want to talk to you about music. I know, this is not why you are here but please, hang with me just for a few minutes.

I want to talk about music that connects with the broken-hearted, new lovers, celebrations, death, tragedy and pretty much all of life situations. So do stay and let’s learn from each other. I did not lie about the title of this post. It is the title of a song by Passenger. I will get to Passenger again in a second.

Bob Marley once sang: “One good thing about music, when it hits you feel no pain.”

We all have at least one song that, when we hear it, triggers an emotional response. It might be a song that accompanied your first kiss, the first dance at your wedding, when he broke your heart. It might be the song you and your lover tuned into and listened together for hours. It might be the song that accompanied you through college, the song that was playing when you heard the good news or the bad news. It might be that love song you played for hours when you had your first crush. That song that reminds you of your happy childhood. A song that brings back memories of those carefree days of your youth.

When my mother passed, I listened to one song over and over again. It was a song by the Beach Boys titled ‘God only knows.’ I can’t listen to this song anymore. It brings uncontrollable tears to my eyes. This song is forever connected to my late mum. It does not matter where I hear it, what time I hear it; it triggers an emotional response that I cannot control.

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We all have a deep connection to music because it is a powerful entity that touches our souls and makes an imprint that can never be erased. Music once heard, experienced and connected to a time in our lives, will be hardwired to our brains and bodies forever.

 Let us get back to Passenger’s ‘let her go.’ This song is my break up coping song. Ever since I stumbled upon Passenger, I have listened to ‘let her go’ to cope with break ups and let downs in relationships. Let me say something about breaking up, it affects men and women the same way. Men may sometimes pretend a break up does not impact them but that is not always true. We all hurt in one way or the other. We all find coping mechanisms. Almost all of us turn to music to help us ease the pain of a break up. We turn to music when the love is new and fresh. We turn to music when the arguments and the fighting start.

‘Let her go’ is not about letting a woman go. It is about what you miss when you let her go. Check out a section of the lyrics below. Also, click on the youtube link below for the video.

 Only miss the sun when it starts to snow

Only know you love her when you let her go

Only know you’ve been high when you’re feeling low

Only hate the road when you’re missing home

Only know you love her when you let her go

And you let her go

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBumgq5yVrA

 The truth is, I missed something about everyone I ever broke up with. It does not matter if I was responsible for the breakup or she was. I missed something about every past lover. It was her voice or how she said hello to me, her laugh, the way she moved, the way she touched me, the way she looked at me. I may not miss the situation that led to the break up, but I miss the person. I had gotten used to sharing my life with this person everyday. Unless you have no capacity for human emotions, a break up will impact you. ‘Let her go’ is my coping song. What is yours?

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 Take a look at my iTunes playlist on my phone and you will find almost every genre of music you can think of. Let me share a few with you.

 As a proud Ghanaian, I have to start with Highlife music. Kwadjo Antwi still reigns supreme on my African playlist. I am willing to bet that Kojo Antwi’s songs are responsible for a whole bunch of kids born in the 80’s and the early 90’s. How can you not love classics like “Bomi Nkome de” and ‘Odasani?’ I am into the old school highlife. C. K . Man’s ‘Adwoa Yankey’ is still a favorite. Bessa Simmons ‘Belembe’ never gets old.

 

I also listen to hiplife and music from Nigeria, the Congo and South Africa. There are talented artists out there in Africa but very few musicians. Today’s African music is dominated by performers and very few musicians.

Performers are more into showing the hottest girls, cars and money on their music videos than the actual art of making music. There is a reason why the music made by musicians like Elton John, Diana Ross, Prince and Michael Jackson are still relevant. Their songs came out decades ago but we still play them, we still remember them. The music made by Nicki Manaj and Brittany Spears will not be remembered 20 years from now.

 Talking about Soft Rock, Fleetwood Mac is one of my all-time favorite bands followed by the Eagles. Stevie Nicks from Fleetwood Mac is probably the best female vocalist I can ever think of. Her voice is unique and it can’t be mistaken for anyone else. The songs she writes are straight from her heart. She writes about her history of turbulent relationships. Check out these lyrics.

 I’ll follow you down,

‘Till the sound of my voice,

Will haunt you.

You’ll never get away,

From the sound,

Of the woman that loves you.

 Haunting, isn’t it? Who writes words like this? Stevie is one of my biggest inspirations.

 I get into the 60’s rock and roll and folk music. The Beatles, The Mamas and Papas, The YoungBloods, Simon & Garfunkel, The Byrds, Gordon Lightfoot just to name a few.

The genre of music which brings me alive is Latin music. Even though I have no clue what they are saying, their songs are full of passion and the emotions you feel from listening to Cumbia or Bachata is unreal. Music is all about emotional connections. You don’t always have to understand, you have to let it move you.  I can make out mi corazon (my heart) and mi amor (my love) from the songs. That is all the words I need to know. Check out Monchy and Alexandra, two Bachata artists I am absolutely crazy about. Every track on their album Exitos is a hit in my opinion. My daily alarm is set to ‘Dos locos’ and ‘Passion.’ It feels good to wake up to some soothing Bachata every morning. It gives me that feeling that I am alive.

My all time favorite all time latin track is Exitos Que No Conocias by Matznini. The song plays out like an orchestra with pitches fueled by latin beats. Matznini’s voice can sink into your soul. She has that sultry latin voice with echoes flawlessly as she works her way down the song. Gloria Estefan’s ‘Mi Tierra’ is a close second favorite of mine.

 I am on a flight almost every month for work. No matter how many times I fly, there is still a level of anxiety which creeps up just before take-off and touchdown. I listen to Procol Harum’s ‘A Whiter Shade of Pale’ before take-off and touchdown every time. I have been following this ritual for years. This song has a calming effect on me and I cannot explain why. Lately, I have been alternating between gospel music, Enya’s songs and Jim Croce’s ‘time in a bottle.’

 Enya helped me survive college. Her album Shepard’s Moon is in my opinion, the best new age album ever produced. Enya and classical music are my go to songs when I am in the office working.

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 I get into Hip-hop, Country, Dance, Reggae and other genres. I will not bore you with my favorites in every genre but I will like to end with reggae.

I grew up on reggae music in Ghana. Reggae music is a genre that can connect me to my childhood happy moments anytime. Reggae rips through the soul like an angry wave. Reggae’s impact on me is undeniable. You know how you listen to specific genres of music during certain times of the day? If I am getting ready for church, I am playing gospel music to get me going. Rap music is a turn off for me on Sunday mornings. Reggae, I can listen to at all hours. Gregory Isaacs, the Cool Ruler still rules on my playlist. Of course, I have to mention Bob Marley. I have every song he ever sang on my playlist. I can literally fill this post with all the reggae artists I like but I am sure I will bore you with that.

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 Anyway, thanks for stopping by. I hope I generated some interest in new music for you. Please comment and share what songs inspire you and why. I am always open to discovering new music and new artistes.

 Stay Frosty, my friends 🙂

Kwadjo Panyin …

Author: Kwadjo Panyin

Kwadjo Panyin is a Ghanaian born relationship and lifestyle blogger located in Los Angeles, California. He holds three degrees; a Bachelors degree from Rutgers University in New Jersey, an MBA from Franklin University in Ohio and a Masters of Science degree from Northern Kentucky University in Kentucky. Kwadjo is a business professional who blogs for fun. His articles are about the challenges of dating and relationship anomalies. Writing, blogging, world travel, and photography are his favorite hobbies.

5 Comments

  1. Peggy says:

    Ur blog is nice and simple. Keep it up

  2. Ramy says:

    We have the same tastes in music! Stevie Nicks is the bomb! I find I’m an old soul when it comes to music. Modern day “noise” i.e. Rap doesn’t do it for me at all.

    • Cleck Boyson says:

      Well it quite unfortunate I am a fun of both you and your page. So I clicked to open simply because of that. But yh you right about some choices of music that are soo inspiring, but I on the other hand is a big fun of Rnb and Afro pop eg Beyonce listen and tiwa savage ft korredo Bello Romantic… I’m happy for reading this…

  3. Editta says:

    RnB and jazz (the Norman Brown kind of jazz) is my kind of the music. Jazz for me is completely soothing and relaxes me!! And of course Gospel music (like the Don Moen kind) brings me peace!!

  4. Afua says:

    One good thing about mysic…when it hits u…u feel no pain… RNM . Well that’s because he was high all the time….lololol… we Ghanaians don’t generally associate music to life events… but yes when u are a teenager… I remember the first time to heard a particular song and what u were doing… without attaching much sentiment to it… I have a few favourite songs many rivers to cross by Jimmy cliff… only cos we had the album and I had a crush on him…..lol.. akos tell brofo…George darko.. I liked the white track suit he wore for the cover… …those were my teenage days… as an adult… don’t really play music for my woes… it doesn’t get the bills paid…lol

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