Let Her Go

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Hello there!  Thanks for clicking on my post. The title of the article made you curious, didn’t it?

You are here to find out about letting someone go, correct?  I hope you do not feel disappointed if I disclose that “let her go” is the title of a song by Passenger and I wanted to talk about music.

I know,  you are probably feeling like I deceived you with the title but please, hang with me just for a few minutes.  You may actually learn a thing or two.

I want to talk about music which connects with the broken-hearted, new lovers, celebrations, death, tragedy and pretty much all of life situations.  So do stay and let’s learn from each other.

Bob Marley once said, “One good thing about music, when it hits you feel no pain.”

We all have at least one or a couple of songs which triggers an emotional response when we hear it.  It might be a song that accompanied your first kiss, the moment when you started crushing on your first love as a teenager,  the first dance at your wedding, when your heart was broken or when you broke someone’s heart.

New lovers sometimes pick a song they both connect to and it reminds them of their love and connection.  All throughout the time we become young learners to when we start college, we connect to music as a way of dealing with life.

Old school music has a powerful way of placing you back in time and before long, you relive how you felt during those moments.

Perhaps it was the song that was playing when you heard the good news or the bad news.  It might be that love song you played for hours when you had your first crush. The songs which remind you of your happy childhood.  A song which brings back memories of those carefree days of your youth.

When my mother passed three years ago, I listened to one song over and over. It was a song by the Beach Boys titled ‘God only knows.’  I can’t listen to this song anymore.  It triggers sadness and sometimes brings uncontrollable tears to my eyes.

This song is forever connected to my late mum.  It does not matter where I hear it, what time I hear it; it triggers an emotional response which I cannot control.


We all have a deep connection to music because it is a powerful entity which touches our souls and makes an imprint that can never be erased. Music once heard, experienced and connected to a time in our lives, will be hardwired to our brains and bodies forever.

Let us get back to Passenger’s ‘let her go.’  Ever since I stumbled upon Passenger, I have listened to “let her go” to cope with difficulties and let downs in my relationships.  Allow me to share some thoughts about breaking up; it affects men and women the same way.

Some may pretend a break up does not impact them but that is not always true. We all hurt one way or the other.  We all seek coping mechanisms whether we broke someone’s heart or vice versa.

Most turn to music to ease the pain of a heartbreak and a breakup. We also turn to music when the love is new and exciting.  Finally, we seek solace and comfort in music when the arguments and the fighting begins.

“Let her go”  is not about letting a woman go.  It is what you miss when you let her go.  Check out a section of the lyrics below. Also, click on the YouTube link below for the video.

Only miss the sun when it starts to snow

Only know you love her when you let her go

Only know you’ve been high when you’re feeling low

Only hate the road when you’re missing home

Only know your lover when you let her go

And you let her go


The truth is, I have missed something about everyone I have ever broken up with.  It could be her voice or how she touched me, her laugh, the way she moved, the way she looked at me. I may not miss the situation that led to the breakup,  but I miss the person.

Unless you have no capacity for human emotions, a break up will impact you.

Take a look at my iTunes playlist on my phone and you will find almost every genre of music you can think of.  Let me share a few with you.

As a proud Ghanaian, I have to start with Highlife music.  Kwadwo Antwi still reigns supreme on my African playlist.  I am willing to bet that Kwadwo Antwi’s  songs are responsible for a whole bunch of kids born in the 80’s and the early 90’s.  How can you not love classics like “Bomi Nkome de” and ‘Odasani?’

I also get into the old school highlife.  C. K. Man’s ‘Adwoa Yankey’ is still a favorite. Bessa Simmons ‘Belembe’ never gets old.

I also listen to hiplife and music from Nigeria, the Congo, and South Africa. There are talented artists out there in Africa but very few musicians.

Permit me to rant about the music of today.  Today’s African music is dominated by performers and very few musicians. Performers are more interested in showing off the hottest girls, cars, and money on their music videos than the real art of making music.

There is a reason the music made by musicians like Kojo Antwi, C.K Man, Pat Thomas, Amakye Dede and others are still relevant today.  Their songs came out decades ago but we still listen to them, we revere them and we still remember them.

The music made by the likes of Shatta Wale and Sakordie may not be remembered 20 years from now.  Performers are equally good but musicians endure over time.

Let’s discuss soft rock for a moment.  Fleetwood Mac happens to be one of my all-time favorite bands followed by the Eagles. Stevie Nicks from Fleetwood Mac is probably the best female vocalist I can ever think of.  Her voice is unique and it can’t be mistaken for anyone else.

The songs she writes are straight from the heart. She writes about her history of turbulent relationships which makes her songs relatable and authentic. Check out these lyrics from “Silver Springs” by Stevie.

I’ll follow you down

‘Till the sound of my voice

Will haunt you

You’ll never get away

From the sound

Of the woman that loves you

Haunting, isn’t it?  Stevie simply rocks and has been at it since the 70’s.

I love listening to other 60’s and 70’s rock and folk music. You will find The Beatles, The Mamas and Papas, The YoungBloods, Simon & Garfunkel, The Byrds, Gordon Lightfoot just to name a few, on my playlist.

The genre of music which lights me up is Latin music.  Even though I have no clue what they are saying,  the songs are filled with passion and emotions.  One can feel the connection and be moved by just listening to the voice and instruments.  Try listening to Cumbia or Bachata; the feelings you experience is unreal.

Music is all about emotional connections. You don’t always have to understand the words,  you have to let it move you.  I can make out mi Corazon (my heart) and mi amor (my love) from the songs though.

If Latin music piques your interest, you may want to check out Monchy and Alexandra, two Bachata artists I am absolutely crazy about. Every track on their album “Exitos” is a hit in my opinion.

My daily wake up alarm is set to ‘Dos locos’ and ‘Passion.’ It feels good to wake up to some soothing Bachata every morning. It gives me that feeling that I am alive and I need to go out and conquer the world.

My all time favorite latin track is “Exitos Que No Conocias” by Matznini.  The song plays out like an orchestra with pitches fueled by Latin beats.  Matznini’s voice can sink into your soul.  She has that sultry voice with echoes flawlessly as she works her way down the song.

Gloria Estefan’s ‘Mi Tierra’ is a close second favorite of mine.

I am on a flight almost every month for work. No matter how many times I fly, there is still a level of anxiety which creeps up just before take-off and touchdown.  I listen to Procol Harum’s ‘A Whiter Shade of Pale’ before take-off and touchdown every time.

To cope with the agony of walking through the welcome section with no one out there waiting to welcome me, I cue up “The Greatest” by Cat Power.

These songs have a calming effect on me and I cannot always explain why.  Lately, I have alternated between gospel music, Enya’s songs and Jim Croce’s “time in a bottle.”

There is a musician I can listen to no matter the time of the day.  I first heard Enya’s New Age eclectic music in college while at a coffee shop I studied in.  Enya was on all day, seven days a week.  Enya is a singer and instrumentalist who keeps herself cloaked in an aura of mystery.

Enya helped me survive college.  Her album Shepard’s Moon is one of the best new age album ever produced.  Enya and classical music are my go to songs when I am in the office working or when I need to chill and relax.

I get into Hip-hop, Country, Dance, Reggae and other genres.  I will not bore you with my favorites in every genre but I will like to end with reggae music.  Reggae music is a genre which connects me to my childhood happy moments.

I feel like Reggae rips through the soul like an angry wave.

You know how you listen to specific genres of music during certain times of the day?  If I am getting ready for church, I am playing gospel music to get me going.  Reggae, I can listen to at all hours.

Gregory Isaacs, the Cool Ruler still rules on my playlist.  Of course, I have to mention Bob Marley. I have every song he ever sang on my playlist. I can literally fill this post with all the reggae artists I like but I won’t have space.

Anyway, thanks for stopping by.  I hope I generated some interest and introduced you to some artists you may not have heard of.  What songs or musicians inspire you and why?

I am always open to discovering new music and new artists.

Stay rocking, my friends!

By Kwadjo Panyin

Author: Kwadjo Panyin

Kwadjo Panyin is a Ghanaian born relationship and lifestyle blogger located in Los Angeles, California. He holds three degrees; a Bachelors degree from Rutgers University in New Jersey, an MBA from Franklin University in Ohio and a Masters of Science degree from Northern Kentucky University in Kentucky. Kwadjo is a business professional who blogs for fun. His articles are about the challenges of dating and relationship anomalies. Writing, blogging, world travel, and photography are his favorite hobbies.


  1. Nii Croffie says:

    Great thing about break ups is they get boring. So now I dont get broken hearts because of a break up. I go out and have better fun.

  2. Brill Odabe says:

    Ahhh, Story of my life! Me thinks this song was deliberately set in a tone that sends desperate tears pouring down. I mean, don’t we all miss “home” (whatever/whoever home means to us)! Good reason to cry, eh! Good read tho

  3. As a Ghanaian and an 80’s kid, will say you can never go wrong with more and more of Kojo Antwi…our love for music is what drives our country. Nice right up, will come for your play list.

  4. You didn’t talk about your driving playlist 🙂

  5. So true… When someone asks what your favourite song is, the answer – it depends. Mood, genre, time of day, month of year, state of the moon, hunger state etc

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