A Beautiful Ghanaian Woman With A 1st Class Qualification Status Cannot Be Trusted

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In an ironic way, Prince Kofi Amoabeng, founder and Chief Executive Officer of UT Bank was quite right in his cynicism about the authenticity of the First class qualification status of a beautiful woman who applies for a job in Ghana.  In fact, I think he is fully justified in his suspicion.

Are you angered by this declaration? Have I stirred up strong emotions with my stance?  If I have succeeded,  then I am pleased.   Please hang with me while I explain my reason for this stand.

Kofi Amoabeng made a true statement but he did not articulate it properly.  He missed a key ingredient to the elements that led to his conclusion.  He should have phrased it this way.

“We,  the men,  who wield the power in eradicating the social economic and financial roadblocks  most women face have exploited this power to the extent that,  I used to tell people that if you are a woman and you come to apply for a job with a 1st Class and you are VERY BEAUTIFUL,  I will be suspicious of the [authenticity] of the First Class status.  We will have to find a way to test whether it is genuine or not.”

He could have also said:

“Most men have successfully created an unfortunate situation and an environment where a beautiful woman has to worry about a university professor soliciting sex in exchange for good grades and a first class status.

This situation is so bad that I used to tell people that if you are a woman and you come to apply for a job with a 1st Class and you are VERY BEAUTIFUL,  I will be suspicious of the [authenticity] of the First Class status.  We will have to find a way to test whether it is genuine or not.”

He could have also put it yet another way:

“Most men have succeeded in creating a generation of women who are desensitized to sexual harassment that most beautiful women face often in the universities and ultimately, their search for employment.  To the women, it is as if it is to be expected.

This harassment is so prevalent that I used to tell people that if you are a woman and you come to apply for a job with a 1st Class and you are VERY BEAUTIFUL,  I will be suspicious of the [authenticity] of the First Class status.  We will have to find a way to test whether it is genuine or not.”

A few weeks ago, while out to lunch with a lady friend in Accra,  she received a text message.  A cynical smile crept on her face as she read it.  She nonchalantly placed the phone down and proceeded to sip on her drink.  I asked her the reason for that smile. Her response was “Oh, it’s something someone I recently interviewed with for a job sent me.”  My curiosity got the better part of me and so I asked what the message was about.  She was gracious enough to show it to me.

It was an adult clip and the text attached read,  “I want to hire you. But first, can we do this?”  I was stopped dead in my tracks! I was equally baffled by her nonchalant reaction.  “Oh, this is normal.” She explained with a smile.  ‘It happens to my friends and me almost every time when we go job hunting in Accra.”

I am not going to compare how female job seekers are treated abroad versus Ghana.  A comparison is not needed or warranted in this case.

I want to speak more about pure decency and the genuine desire to consider a fellow human being for her abilities and not our need for pleasure.

Men are the cause of this deplorable state of affairs.  I am not excluding myself neither am I excusing myself from the fact that, some men have made it acceptable in our society for a female to think that it is normal for an employer to ask for sex in exchange for a job.  I am not excusing myself from our failure as men to protect our women from these shameful practices.

No, I cannot excuse myself when we have spurned a generation of women to expect that a male employer may not offer her a job if she refuses to sleep with him.

We have to be respectful of our women and their abilities.  To treat our Queens with the dignity they deserve in the education and employment space.

I refuse to ask how some men will feel if their daughters or sisters were subjected to the same treatment.  I refuse to ask that male employer who sent the video clip to my friend how it would feel if I sent the same clip with the same proposition to his daughter or sister.

I refuse to ask because the approach of asking men to consider their sisters, daughters, and mothers while they exploit women does not work.

The only true change to how poorly women are treated in the education and employment space will come when the men gather the courage to speak up about this problem.

The true change will come when men stand up and declare that this practice of placing our women in a position to choose between sleeping with a potential male boss and a job is absolutely sickening!

My friend Abena Tenkorang was absolutely right when she stated,  “In a country where you will hustle before finding a proper job, how many women will expose a boss who demands sex?”  There is a bigger argument to be made about an economic system which offers few employment outlets to an applicant pool five times the size of the available opportunities.

Given this insurmountable situation most young women face landing a decent job,  should some of us men add to their woes by exploiting them for sex?  Don’t these young women suffer enough in this patriarchal society?

Kofi Amoabeng is right.  As a man, he knows the torture a beautiful woman has to endure in her interactions with some male university professors.  He understands the powerful temptations of using her body for a 1st class status.  He is smart enough to know that a woman, most of the time, does not willingly offer herself to a man twice her age for good grades.

He knows that even if she does offers herself first in exchange for a favor,  it is most of the time a last ditch effort or a decision made out of desperation.

My personal wakeup call came about 15 years ago while I was a college student.  In a heated argument with my then girlfriend who just arrived from Ghana a month earlier,  it came to light how she acquired a visa.  She disclosed how she had to close her eyes and picture my face while a big burly man was profusely sweating on top of her for about an hour.

Her wish for a better life abroad,  a life with me and to provide for her family led her to make such a decision.  She did not make this decision lightly.  After months of holding off this man who held the key to a better life abroad,  she gave in after she came home one day to find her mum, brothers, and sisters outside their residence with all their belongings.  The landlord had kicked them out for nonpayment of rent.

This is a decision that she profoundly regrets every single day.  That particular day,  my eyes were opened as a man to the deplorable state in which we have placed our women.  I knew then that there was a better approach.  An approach where we treat our women with kindness and dignity.

If you thought my take on this matter is exaggerated,  I will like you to read the piece below from Maame Adwoa, a dear friend of mine.

Kwadjo Panyin has touched on a sensitive yet important topic.  Sexual harassment against women is entrenched in our society.  It occurs in the workplace, in our educational institutions, and in fact,  in everyday encounters.

The scenarios Kwadjo recounted are personal experiences of his female compatriots, myself included.  Allow me to share some of my personal experiences with you.

I had the unfortunate experience of failing a paper in the course of my studies at the tertiary level.  I had to retake the paper and guess what,  I failed once again because I refused to “go see” the lecturer in question.

The thought of a bald-headed man my father’s age if not older making a pass at me behind closed doors was simply revolting!  I paid a price for my ‘insolence’.

I was lucky to pass narrowly on the third try but my grade point average (GPA) took a hit.  One can only imagine what my final GPA would have been had I gone through a few more such experiences.

Post graduation I landed a marketing job.  I recall holding my breath and saying a prayer every time I had an appointment alone with a male client or a potential male client.

Depending on what I was faced with ranging from flirting to groping,  I had to quickly conjure an exit strategy.  This was quite frequent and after a while,  it does put a damper on a woman’s drive to excel on the job.

I do not need to bore you with more harrowing stories to drive home a point.  While some of us were, are or have been fortunate to have an excellent support system that makes it easier to reject or ward off such demeaning advances,  there is a greater number of women who have not been so fortunate.

These unfortunate women have had to yield to such propositions to make a grade or get and keep a job necessary for survival.

It is in this light that I join Kwadjo Panyin in the call to our men, to appeal to their conscience.  That they stand up and speak up against this unfortunate trend.  It is in their power to do so for their wives, for their sisters, for their nieces, for their daughters, for the queens of the nation.

As it is in every story,  the coin can be flipped.  There are some men facing a similar situation at the hands of female employers.  It is only right to speak out against this too.

Edmund Burke sums this beautifully in his quote, “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”

Kwadjo Panyin & Maame Adwoa.

Model depicted: Nana Pomaah

Author: Kwadjo Panyin

Kwadjo Panyin is a Ghanaian born relationship and lifestyle blogger located in Los Angeles, California. He holds three degrees; a Bachelors degree from Rutgers University in New Jersey, an MBA from Franklin University in Ohio and a Masters of Science degree from Northern Kentucky University in Kentucky. Kwadjo is a business professional who blogs for fun. His articles are about the challenges of dating and relationship anomalies. Writing, blogging, world travel, and photography are his favorite hobbies.

58 Comments

  1. Caren Agunyo says:

    Oh Kwadjo, easy man. We’re in a world where individuals jump to comment based on a title and not the content. Point well taken.

  2. Is true some women or ladies use their bodies to get A whiles we the guys use our brain to get F. go to our various Universities and see for ur self.

  3. I get the article and I guess he had to use that caption but if you are trying to stop something then cut it out completely…its just wrong to assume a beautiful woman can’t earn a first class on her own..so she has to prove herself..but a man with first class got it genuinely…. That’s just wrong…People get first class through different means some genuinely some cheat and this shouldn’t have anything to do with gender..If you go for a job interview man or woman you must prove yourself worthy of the job..

  4. I wrote about this just a few weeks back on my Fb page. Its so disheartening and the most annoying of the lot are the married ones. these same men will turn around and say women are cheap…

  5. Nana Kwadwo says:

    Good article ,but is one out of the lots the genuinely make those grades.. men naturally has soft spots for women even if they want nothing sexuall with them..at uni I realised the male lecturers were empathetic to women (women in engineering) whiles the female lecturers are strong on ladies..so men can’t really be blamed….

  6. Ama Akpene says:

    Not all beautiful ladies are dumb

  7. Nana Pomaah, is that in the article?

  8. The same way he couldn’t be trusted with peoples money. Somehow!

  9. I think the article is bias or perhaps concentrated. This is a global phenomenon…not only Ghana

    • Thanks for your comments. This article is an attempt to explain the genesis of why someone in a position to employ hundreds holds such views. Perhaps, I may have done a poor job in articulating that my intent is not to state that all beautiful women experiences this global phenomenon. My argument does not follow such a path. My argument is an attempt to explain how a statement such as this will be made in the first place. Thanks again for your comments. Okunupa Nana Kwasi

  10. Qaan Boadi Pomaah in the picture right?

  11. I know plenty of beautiful Ghanaian women who graduated with me and they did with first class. So some can be trusted.

  12. Statement like this really hurt my soul..for all the years spent in school to study and make my family proud and then comes this statement…oh gosh.

    • Thanks for your comments. It hurts my soul that I may have done a poor job in articulating that my intent is not to state that all beautiful women do not work hard to attain their first class status. My argument does not follow such a path. My argument is an attempt to explain the genesis of how a statement such as this will be made by a person in a position to employ hundreds. Thanks again for your comments.

    • Duly noted..no offence taken. You were simply the messenger😊😊😊😊.

  13. Nancy Nartey says:

    My bestie and I graduated with a first class and we never had anything to do with any lecturer, my bestie was the overall best graduating student for the program we pursued . Moving forward with the saying like most ladies with first class had affairs with lecturers to get such grades and hence perform poor when they get employment is also false. I went on to secure a a graduate trainee role with a multinational company selecting one person for each function, I proved myself and I was the one candidate selected for Supply Chain department ( note the recruitment process wasn’t carried out by their Ghana HR department but from South Africa ). I have started working and carrying out my first assigned project which thanks to God and my experience colleagues, is going smoothly. My bestie has started her own logistics company in tema and all is going on well for her.. We still have some ladies with dignity out there and work hard achieve their dreams. We didn’t have it easy but it was hard work and God..

  14. Mq Tontoh says:

    Kwadjo Panyin I think there are two sides to this story and your plot to victimise the beautiful woman and draw sympathy for successive nights of bachelorite engagements to console all the victims close to your geographical location won’t hold water.

    Don’t I know you now?

    Men are born hunters, yet we are restricted by religion and marriage legislations. Beautiful women are easily attracted to men and that is why 80% of any available shop floor in the world is dedicated to them.

    Women , those who want to, use what they have to get what they want. Men who are less religious or not religious salivate around these women and grab them when and where they can.

    Some university lecturers are the same and so are some employers.

    If you ask me, it is a blessing to be born beautiful. Look at the billboards to begin with. Beauty sells sex but it is always a matter of choice.

    On every land in this world there are laws to protect men and women who have been victims of sex solicitation for marks and jobs.

    The true victims are those who have reported their perpetrators and brought them to justice.

    As for beautiful women with a first class qualification, for the sake of the ordinary looking ones who have worked hard, test them. Not all beautiful women use what they have to get what they want.

    • Thanks for your comment. Please consider my writing as an attempt to explain the view of one man, not an established fact. You will realize that I started my article with a quote from a person who was in a position to create and offer employment. His thoughts forms the picture of what others who hold similar positions may also be thinking. My article attempted to explain the genesis of his views. I am by no means making a blanket statement that all beautiful women with a 1st class qualification endure such treatment; I made an argument as to why an employer may holds such views. However, if you read carefully, you will understand that assertion is not my stance. Thanks again for your comments. Mq Tontoh

    • Mq Tontoh says:

      Kwadjo Panyin I believe you. As for that man with a collapse bank behind him he couldn’t stand his ground for long. 🤣🤣🤣

  15. You cant be very beautiful and still be a first class student “Never”……………..

  16. Bibi Naa Korkor read this article….what we were talking about.

  17. It’s touching and I wish men would empathise. Had it been that our lecturers would never think of pleasure when it comes to our grades, I mean, who’d skip lectures?

    • Had it also not been that some of the ladies were actually the ones chasing these same lecturers and proposing to meet them at hotels and guest houses; maybe the lecturer would also not think of that pleasure. It’s a two way street… Most of the women too are playing their part.

  18. very true but i think ladies are to blame too especially those in the tertiary…they wont come for lectures nor study because they know they can offer their bodies for an A but we as men can do better

  19. Esenam says:

    Mr. Amoabeng leaves it all on the women forgetting that it is the men who push them. Secondly it is not always true that every beautiful girl with a first class has to give something to get it. Quite an unfair generalization.

    And to the employers who think that hiring only first class materials is the way to go. Mr. Amoabeng has said it all. All that glitters is not Galamsey😂

  20. Hey, in as much as the men are in the wrong for this sexual “exploitation”; a lot of the women are up for it too. Most of them virtually force their way into the beds of these men. Even those already in employment find ways to present themselves to the bosses for favours and others. The men are not in the wrong alone… the women too are playing their part very efficiently lol.

    • I’m a woman and I agree with you.Most of them have postures that suggest they are up for it. I agree there are few ones who are victims though.

    • That’s true .. Patience Boateng.. there are real victims.. but I think this sex for job and favours has become like the norm these days. Most women have accepted and bought into it.. that’s the “advantage” they have over their male counterparts.

    • Thanks for your comment. As I have explained above, my words can’t be taken literally and one has to read the article with an open mind. I am not making a blanket statement about beautiful women been made to offer favors for good grades nor do I wish to apportion blame on some women who use their feminine allures to their advantage. My piece attempted to examine how a powerful employer holds such views in the first place. Thanks again.

    • Gestures and postures suggest they are up for it…Body language hmmm so inaccurate yet people are judged based on it..

    • Kwadjo Panyin… that powerful employer has lived here most of his life. He has friends and colleagues in other positions of power. I also schooled, work and live here… and I share his sentiments 100%. But of course you can’t just conclude that based on a woman’s beauty … she obtained her 1st class or job by “offering” herself. There will always be the minority who genuinely worked hard to get to where they are.

  21. Took the words right out of my mouth…

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